Holiday Have Tos and IBS

Sadly, for most of us, the only time we even think about the notion of a tribe is when we watch "Survivor." However, it is important to remember that we developed and survived as a species in tribal units, with a great deal of focus on mutual assistance and cooperation. In our drive for independence and self reliance, we have isolated ourselves away from using the help of others. This change has not necessarily been good for our physical and mental health. As you think about how to manage the holidays this year, give a good amount of consideration toward asking others to share the load.

• Give yourself permission to ask for help. It is a sign of wisdom, not a sign of weakness.
  
  
• Assert yourself. No one can read your mind. Feel free to speak clearly about what your needs are and spell out the areas in which you need assistance.
  
  
• Allow others to gain the benefit of feeling good about themselves for helping out.
  
  
• Say no, if need be. You don’t have to attend every party you are invited to or bake three dozen cookies for the office cookie swap.
  
  
• Let go of perfectionism. Yes, no one else is going to do it as well as you do it. So what? At least the item is off of your list.